How to Support a Loved One Struggling With an Eating Disorder

Watching someone you care about struggle with food, body image, or eating behaviors can be heartbreaking. Many loved ones feel helpless, not knowing what to say or do. The truth is, your support can make a meaningful difference—but it’s important to approach with compassion, patience, and understanding.

This guide will walk you through practical ways to support someone with an eating disorder—and what to avoid—so you can show up as a steady source of care.

1. Learn About Eating Disorders

Education is the first step. Eating disorders are complex mental health conditions—not choices. The more you understand, the better equipped you’ll be to respond without judgment.

2. Focus on Feelings, Not Food or Weight

Instead of commenting on what your loved one eats or how their body looks, ask about their emotions. Phrases like “How have you been feeling lately?” can open doors without pressure.

3. Offer Gentle Support, Not Control

It’s natural to want to “fix” things, but forcing someone to eat or change their habits rarely helps. Offer to listen, go with them to appointments, or simply sit with them during meals if they ask.

4. Avoid Triggering Language

Steer clear of diet talk, weight comments, or “healthy vs. unhealthy” labels. Even casual remarks can reinforce harmful patterns.

5. Encourage Professional Help

Eating disorders often require specialized treatment. Gently suggest therapy, support groups, or medical care. Offer to help research providers or go with them to their first session if they’re open to it.

6. Take Care of Yourself, Too

Supporting someone with an eating disorder can feel overwhelming. Remember, your own well-being matters. Seek support from a counselor or join a family support group.
Your love and patience matter more than you may realize. By creating a safe, compassionate space, you’re helping your loved one feel less alone—and taking one of the most important steps in their journey to recovery.

If your loved one is in Texas or California, I offer specialized eating disorder therapy. Schedule a consultation to explore support options.